Payton's Opinion

Payton brought home a paper today entitled Everyone's Opinion is Important.  I thought I'd share a few of his thoughts...

• What scares you?  Homework
• If you could live anywhere, where would you live?  Oceana (where Darrin & I are from and where Gee lives)
• What would you do with $100?  Buy Bakugan stuff and a machine gun
• What would you do if you could do anything you wanted to do?  Make my mom give me all her money so I could buy a lot of toys.
• What makes you happiest?  Going to Gee's (his grandmother)
• What do you enjoy doing outdoors?   Jumping on the trampoline and skateboarding.
• What makes you feel sad?   When my girlfriend breaks up with me.
• What is the sport you enjoy playing more than any other?   Baseball
• What about your best friend do you like the most?   Palmer - he is nice to me, is funny and looks out for me.
• Who is your favorite story character?  Slappy in Goosebumps.

My How Things Have Changed

Christmas 1984

There was a time, back in the early to mid 80's, that I spent virtually every weekend at the skating rink.  That was the place to be.  I spent countless hours walking and skating around and around and around with my friends.  Then, the rink put in a one screen theater.... wow!  That was big time for our little neck of the woods.  That was the very theater that I saw one of the best movies ever made, Top Gun.  Seems just like yesterday really.

At this very minute, I'm doing the same thing.  Sort of.  I have no skates on and I've been relished to a booth in the back corner, but I'm here... at the rink again.  This time I'm the mom, not the kid.  How did that happen?  I still love to skate but have nicely been asked not to by my two loving children.   They are afraid I'll embarrass them.  What?!  I'm still cool, aren't I? 

Apparently what passed at cool in 1984 is now equal to dorky.  Either that or the fact that I'm simply a mom is enough to permanently place me in that category.  I guess I can relate.  After all, I would have just died had my mom donned a pair of skates back in the day.  Like totally!

I suppose I'm going to have to pass the torch, whether I want to or not.  It's their turn to experience the fun the rink can provide.  But they can be sure of one thing, I have a good memory.  I know the dangers it hides as well.  I'm going to be lurking in the back, watching closely to keep them out of trouble.  My torch's light is officially extinguished.

A Stolen Post

I came across this post today on another blog and had to share it. It's amazing. I wish I had read it when I was a teenager.

Advice for a Teenage Daughter I Will Never Have

Even if you have just been shot with a tranquilizer dart for elephants,
don't sleep in your makeup. Or contact lenses.

What separates a professional eyebrow arch from the amateurs is scissor-trimming. This is the least important item on this list, but It took me 38 years to find out, and I have to pass it onto somebody.

Wear the bikini every chance you can, and use the sunscreen.

Every year you can possibly delay having sex will ultimately make sex that much
better. Think of it as the difference between spending every allowance on cheap
shoes that don't last, or saving up for some really fabulous Jimmy Choos. Not
that you have to go without even touching a pair of shoes in the meantime. Or
marry your first pair of Jimmy Choos. Don't tell your mom I said that.

As long as you are in your teens, avoid dating anyone more than three years older than you. At your age, a romantic relationship with an older man is actually neither
romantic or a relationship.

You look ugly when you gossip.

Throwing up drunk is not a good look for you.

Save this for later: the person you are now is not the way you behaved then.

Someday, a girl who is horrible to you now will request to be your Facebook friend. And though your cursor will linger a long and delicious moment above the "ignore" button, you will click on "accept" instead, and know that you have grown up.

Go to your prom. Wear the corsage. Stand under the arch. Get the pictures. Really.

Don't waste youth and resiliency. Have adventures.

It will never be more appropriate for you to be inappropriate, and society will
never be more forgiving. But avoid risks that will narrow your future.
Skinny-dipping: yes. Filmed skinny-dipping: no.

Most importantly, hang around for womanhood. I promise, the best is yet to come.

If you liked it as much as I did, jump over to Kyran's blog and tell her!

More Taterisms to Brighten Your Day

"Dad, when you were a little kid did you have a yo-yo?" Darrin said, "yes." Payton then added, "I guess it was made of wood, right?" His said asked, "why do you say that?" "Because I know they didn't have plastic back then," Payton replied.

I said, "Look Payton, here's a coffee mug with a 'D' on it. That could be for Daddy or Darrin." Without hesitating he replied, "Or Doofus!!" I guess I should be happy he's learning to spell, right?

While completing his math homework, Payton was getting frustrated with the subtraction problems. He put his book down and angrily said, "I hate subtraction! When will I ever have to used that in my life any way?!" A few minutes later he was having difficulty with subtraction again and I was trying to explain the concept of re-grouping (borrowing for our old timers). Again, he got frustrated and said, "Never mind, I'll just do subtraction with my own style!"

He's recently given our dog Bo, who tends to pass a lot of gas, a new name.... Bo Mc Farts-a-lot. No, they are usually not allowed to say the "f" word, but that one was too funny!

I usually call my mom at least once a day to update her on the boys' day. Last night I waited until Payton was in the bathtub to call her because I wanted to tell her about a note his teacher had sent home. Now, he's upstairs, in the bathroom, in the bathtub, with the door shut and apparently still heart me telling her about the note. Next thing I know he's hollering, "Why don't you just put it in the newspaper for Pete's sake?" Now, why can't he hear me when he's standing right next to me and I ask him to clean his room??

One night recently we were going around the dinner table and everyone was to say at least one thing they liked about each person. When Payton's turn came he said....
I like that mommy is pretty.
I like that daddy plays the PS2 with me.
I like that Garrett is nice.
And, I like everything about me!

In the Words of Andy Rooney......

A friend recently sent this to me in an email and boy did it ring true! Just wanted to share it with all of you too. Enjoy.

I've learned.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned.... That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned.... That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.

I've learned.... That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned.... That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned.... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned.... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned..... That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned.... That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned.... That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned.... That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I 've learned.... That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned.... That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned... That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned..... That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned... That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned.... That opportunities are never lost, someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned.... That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned.... That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned..... That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

New Bella Sara Products..... a review

You may remember a post I recently wrote about Bella Sara trading cards. Well, I would like to share two more Bella Sara products with you. Next month, March 2009, they will be releasing two new products that the little girl in your life will just love. The first is Bella Sara Miniatures. There will be twenty velvety soft horses from the land of North of North for your little one to collect. Now they will actually be able to touch, feel and play with their very own Bella Sara horse. How cool is that? They will be very reasonably priced at only $1.99 per pack. Each pack will contain one random horse, a random bonus code to redeem online and a checklist card. The age range for this product is 5+ years.

The second new product that will be introduced next month is the Bella Sara Treasures. This will be the eighth series in the popular trading card line for girls. With Treasures comes more printable activities, bonus codes, coloring pages, wallpapers, jigsaw puzzles and a poster. You little one will get all of the Bella Sara she could ever want. The price for these new cards will be $2.99 a pack. Each pack will contain five random horse and/or treasure cards, one random sticker card, one random tattoo card and one Treasures checklist care. They are intended for children 5 and up as well.

For those of you not familiar with Bella Sara, here's the scoop.....

Bella Sara, the most successful trading card product ever developed for girls, features horse-themed fantasy cards that offer positive, inspirational messages. The collectible fun packs include unique codes that can be activated on the Bella Sara website. Bella Sara taps into the young girls' love of horses and offers them the ability to nurture virtual horses in their online stable, read stories and play games.

The story behind the most successful trading card product ever developed for girls goes like this.....

Bella Sara was created in Denmark by Gitte Odder Braendgaard. She was inspired to create Bella when she worked as a social worker. In keeping with her positive values and love of children, Bella Sara features inspirational, meaningful messages and imagination-building game play designed to support a child's development.

Another fun feature of their website... starting Feb. 27 - April 30, they will be giving fans the opportunity to win a Treasure Hunt Party all their own. Be sure and check the site for all the details and to enter.

You can rest assures that the Bella Sara website is a safe, child friendly site where your daughter can explore, play and most importantly... do it safely. After all, 4.3 millions girls and moms can't be wrong, right?

My First CHADD Meeting

I usually save my ADHD related posts for my ADHD & LD Resource Blog, but I wanted to share this experience here.....

Founded in 1987, CHADD is "the nation's leading non-profit organization serving individuals with AD/HD and their families. CHADD has over 16,000 members in 200 local chapters throughout the U.S. Chapters offer support for individuals, parents, teachers, professionals, and others."

I have wanted to attend a CHADD (Children & Adult with ADHD) meeting for years now. When we lived in South Carolina there wasn't a near by CHADD group. When we moved to SW Virginia, I had hoped to find one here. However, I soon learned that there wasn't a group here either....until now.

An adventurous mom decided that this area needed the resources that CHADD could provide. She set out on her own to create a local group and succeeded. Our first meeting was last night.

There were ten parents, one counselor, one teacher and four ADHD children in attendance (my own included). I decided to take my son so he could meet and interact with other children who have ADHD. I felt this would encourage him and support what I've been telling him for so long..... that he's not the only kid with these (ADHD) problems. I was impressed that one counselor and one teacher took the time to attend as well. Each of them said that they were there to learn more about ADHD so they could better understand their ADHD students/clients. Awesome! I sure wish more educators took that approach.

As is usual in a first time meeting, we went around the room and introduced ourselves. We also gave a little background information about our ADHD child... when they were diagnosed, medications taken, school attending, etc. It was encouraging just to hear the other parents' ADHD stories, even if they were brief. I could relate to so many. Every child that was represented was diagnosed at the age of six. I found that interesting. It was also interesting to hear what medications others have tried and how successful/unsuccessful each were.

I could relate to the other parents right from the start. It was comforting to know that for once I was surrounded by a roomful of people who are on the same journey I am... the ADHD journey. They have experienced many of the same issues with their children. They understand my concerns and frustrations. This support group is already a success for me.
We discussed how often we'd like to meet (the first Monday of every month), the length of the meetings (6:30 - 8:00 pm) and what we would all like to gain from this group (education, encouragement, camaraderie, support). We also decided that we'd like to have monthly speakers.... local physicians and psychologists that specialize in ADHD, educators with an ADHD background, etc.

I'm so excited to be a part of this group. I look forward to the coming months and learning even more about this condition. I am also anxious to get the word out into the community. I know there are so many that could benefit from this wonderful resource. My goal now is to invite as many people as I possibly can to the next meeting. I plan to spread the word through my county education contacts as well as send home fliers with the 350+ students that attend my son's school. Getting the word out there is vital in helping this group grow which will in turn help ADHD parents, caregivers and educators grow in their ADHD knowledge.

If you'd like to learn more about CHADD, I encourage you to visit their website. They provide a library of information and resources that you have access to without being a CHADD member. You can also search for a CHADD support group in your area.

For more information on ADHD, I'd love for you to stop by my ADHD & LD Resource Blog or visit Trusera's ADHD Collection, where I write as well.

Happy Birthday to Me for the L-A-S-T Time

Yesterday was my 38th birthday. 38th!! I'm still trying to figure out how that is possible. I still feel like I'm in my early 20's. As long as I don't look in the mirror, it would be hard to convince me I wasn't. I'm seriously considering stopping all future birthdays at this point. Seriously, is it really necessary to observe ones birthday every 365 days? I'm sure life would go on if I didn't. Yep, that settles it. No more birthdays for me. I'm 38 and holding forever!

So, want to see pictures from my very last birthday observance? Okay... here ya go....

Me trying to look younger without my glasses! Sure wish I could wear contacts.

Celebrating with Darrin's family at Red Robin.... Grandma, Lorane, Garrett, Dan, Danny, me & Payton. {Darrin was the designated photographer}

Juicy Couture perfume from my hubby :)

There you have it. Final b-day pics of me. Hope you enjoyed. Just come back to this post this time next year and we'll look at them again!

Don't Look to the Left

The third week of December the boys and I were lucky enough to spend time with family in West Virginia. We did a little early Christmas celebrating and fully enjoyed our time there. That Sunday I attended church at Toneda Baptist. That is the church I grew up in, was baptized in and Darrin and I were married in. It's a wonderful house of God full of wonderful people. I am always so thankful when I get the chance to return and am always welcomed back "home" with open arms. However, that particular Sunday was different.

That Sunday was the first time in all of my 37 years that my Mamaw was not sitting beside in the pew. She has been ill since the summer and unable to attend church. Of course I knew before I went that she wouldn't be there. I also knew that my mom, brother and his family would be. I never thought twice about sitting in the third pew from the front without Mamaw. It just never dawned on me that that would be a problem.

At first, when I sat down, it wasn't an issue. I was busy chatting with my family and giving hugs to my church family who I hadn't seen in a few months. However, as soon as the service started, I glanced to my left. She wasn't there! There was an empty space in the pew and an even bigger one in my heart. It was hard to sing with joy or listen to the pastor's message. My mind was focused on my Mamaw's absence.

I had felt that emptiness only once before. On May 23, 2005, my Papaw passed away. The first time I went back to church after that was extremely difficult. But, Mamaw was there to greet me with her loving smile. This time however, both of their seats were empty. I know that things change over time, but I am not ready for this change. I want my Mamaw healthy again. I want her back in her seat when church is in service. I want to hear her singing those old familiar hymns with me.

I pray daily that God will touch my Mamaw's frail body. That he will restore her health. She turned 86 on Nov. 9, 2008. I know her time here on earth is limited at this point. However, I'm just not ready to let her go yet (like I have a say so in the matter). She has so much more to do...... she has great grandchildren to watch grow, she has countless stories left to share with me, and she has so much love left to give. I know my Papaw is probably ready for her to join him in his heavenly home, but those of us left here are just not ready to let her go. Surely he'll understand.

In the meantime, I'll continue to go to my old home church every chance I get. I'll continue to smile as I greet my church family. And, I'll continue to praise the Lord with song. However, I will not look to my left until Mamaw is sitting beside me.

Catching up after the holidays....

Our Christmas was busy, busy, busy as I know so many other peoples were. We were lucky enough to have four Christmases! Here's the run down....

December 20th found us in WV at Darrin's grandmother's. This is always a BIG event. She has five children, all of which were there. In addition, their spouses, children and grandchildren were there too. We had a super fantastic meal (pot luck of course) and then the wrapping paper started flying. We always exchange names as it would be (financially) impossible to buy a gift for everyone. After opening the gifts, visiting and eating some more... it was movie time. I retired early this year but the men stayed up to 4:00 a.m. It was a great weekend and a wonderful way to start the Christmas week.

Darrin's grandmother, Juanita
December 25th we were back at our house in Virginia. My in-laws (mom, dad & brother) came up to share it with us. The boys woke up bright and early at 7:30 a.m. By 8:00 a.m. we were all sitting in the living room (a little sleepy eyed) watching the boys excitedly pass out the gifts. This was the first year Garrett didn't still "believe." He took great pleasure in watching Payton's excitement. The big thing they got from Santa was Rock Band for their PS2. (Darrin seems to like it too!). They also asked for Nerf guns and ammunition which has gotten plenty of use. Darrin's mom and I made Christmas dinner and enjoyed watching the boys play with their new toys. Needless to say, we were all ready for bed early that night.

The boys, excited on Christmas morning
The next day, Dec. 26th, the boys and I headed back to WV to my mom's. We had dinner and exchanged gifts with she, my step dad, my brothers and their families. It was another first of sorts. The first Christmas we were all together in 26 years... since my oldest brother joined the US Air Force. We were so thankful he and his family were there with us and look forward to many more holidays with them.

Payton, Garrett and my oldest brother's girls

Our final Christmas was Jan. 2nd at Darrin's brother's. His two daughters, parents, grandmother and us enjoyed another meal together. As soon as we were finished eating the kids headed straight for the gifts. Since it was also Darrin's (39th) birthday, we celebrated that as well with cake and a few special gifts for him.

Garrett & Payton with their cousins @ Uncle Danny's

The decorations are down and put away for another year. Life has returned to normal, I suppose. It's always a little sad when the holiday season is over. It's such a joyous time of year when everyone is full of cheer. However, we're looking forward to 2009 and the new adventures it holds.

What to see more holiday pictures? No problem... just go to flickr!